1. List and rate your fetishes: Read My very own Kinky Interests Worksheet from top to bottom. Then allow your favorite fantasies to play through your head, paying particular attention to the details you just read over, taking notes as you do so. Walk away and do something else for a bit. When you return, make a list of the your likes and dislikes. Better yet, fill out the Worksheet, marking the level of interest according to the instructions. Leave nothing out, even it seems scary to you right now or you feel that it is embarrassing. Nothing is too far out for a fantasy. You need not worry that you may shock your Goddess. The only way you may lose Her respect is to be dishonest with Her or yourself. Holding back will only keep you from realizing your true self. The Goddess will know in most cases what you need better than you do. If you are new to all this, keep a copy and put it in a safe place. A year or more from now you will be able to look back on far you have progressed.
2. Setting Limits: To an extent you have already set some limits by letting Goddess Danielle (or whoever you choose to share your list with) know how you feel about what you are currently willing to do or accept. Decide whether light, medium or heavy play is what you want in each area of interest. Other limits will need to be discussed with whomever is topping you. Now is a good time to make a list of what you feel those limitations are so that when you begin the session negotiation process, you will not be shocked or surprised by any of the questions you are asked. You will have had time to evaluate your feelings about limitations and be able to answer frankly and without later regret.
3. The Complexity Factor: Keep in mind that during a session activities are COMBINED to create a layered effect of sensations, so that although tickling may be something you can handle intensely on its own, coupled with an enema or twenty clothespins clipped to your more sensitive parts, the same sensation may seem ten- or a hundred-fold more intense. If you are new, stick with light or very light play. Don't be ashamed to work your way up in intensity. Never tell a Domina that She can do anything She desires with you. You may find yourself being used to satisfy Her most sadistic urges. She may not physically harm you, yet still manage to cause you pain and agony that can take six or more months to heal. There is no reason to attempt to impress by overstating your limits. You will only regret your words.
4. Toys: Read the site to find out what tools and toys are supplied and which you need to provide. The Goddess Danielle, and most other Dominas, will require you to supply your own insertables. If it goes in you, and you know better than anyone else what you can take, you need to have those items in your possession before you book the appointment. Don't expect Fed-Ex to come through for you by 10AM for that 11AM meeting with your Goddess. In only happens that way on the commercial. Ask about special equipment for the session you seek. Most modern dungeons have more equipment that floor space available. So some time is required to move the stocks to the back wall and pull the spanking bench out. Medical scenes require some sanitizing to be done beforehand. Ask questions to to insure that the ropes and chains are there for your session. The best policy for obscure fetishists is to bring your own with you. Make it a gift to the Goddess. You know then that the object of your desires will be there for each successive session.
5. Attributes your Domina must possess: Personality, protocol, session style and physique are all important considerations when choosing a Domina. Some may have a friendly, compassionate, flexible manner while others may have a distant, haughty, imperial demeanor. Most all will be intolerant of a lack of timeliness on your part. Expect to be asked who you have seen in the past during the interview process, how you felt those sessions went, what worked, what did not, and why you are not continuing with Her. Know what constituted a successful session. Ask to offer ways you feel those past sessions could have been better handled.
6. Indie or House: Do you like the short term, anonymity that a house, which employs several Dommes, can provide or do you prefer a long-term personal interaction with an independent Domina? An independent often has a private studio (sometimes shared with another Domme), is more experienced and sincere, and offers a more personal connection. The independent is generally more expensive, more exclusive, that is to say more selective about Her submissives, and less likely to see you at the last minute. The houses are less expensive, convenient, and offer opportunity for group sessions. Sometimes the Dommes at a house are less experienced, and may not be well trained, intuitive or caring about your needs.
7. Study advertisements: Local trade publications and the web contain ads for the services you seek. Sometimes you can read as much between the lines as the content of the ad itself regarding the attitude, interests, dislikes, intensity and style of the Domina. Look for your specific fetish but don't assume that a Domme will not session your kink because it isn't listed as a specialty of Hers.
8. Buyer Beware: Do not base your expectation of needs being met solely on price. Although you can expect to get what you pay for. This works both ways.
9. Making the Call: Nervous is normal. Expect to be nervous when you make the call. Make it anyway. Follow these simple directions for that call to go well.
   • Do not call from a blocked number. Expect to never receive a reply if you do.
   • Introduce yourself.
   • Verify that it is a good time for Her to receive your call.
   • Call at a decent hour. If its too late for you to be answering the phone....don't call Her. She is a Dominatrix, not a vampire.
   • If the calls goes to voice mail, do not hang up. Leave a message, even if its just to say, "please do not call me back at this number". Your Goddess is a busy woman. Multiple hang up calls are perceived as you being impatient.
   • Listen to what She has to say. There are times She may choose to take your call, even though She may not be able to speak openly with you. Until She gives you permission to speak freely, assume She is among vanilla folk that do not need to hear Her talking to you about coffee enemas.
   • You may ask pertinant questions but keep in mind that Goddess does not like to repeat herself. Make sure you have absorbed whatever info she has already provided so you do not ask her questions she has already answered. You may tell Her of your desires. Do not make demands.
   • The Domme will be making a determination about you in the few minutes you spend on the phone with Her. Do not waste Her time with repetitive or annoying questions. Do not ask questions that are answered on Her site, unless you are asking for clarification.
   • Let Her know that you respect and value Her time.
   • Avoid calling just to hear Her voice. You will only cause yourself grief.
   • Do Not book time if you are unsure you can make the appointment.
   • Write down any information She gives you as well as the answers to your questions so that you can review them.
   • If your appointment cannot be kept, call Her As Soon As Possible.
   • follow her directions.
10. Be Ready:Shower, shave and wear clean clothes to the appointment. Pack any implements ahead of time, so you do not forget to bring them. Place the tribute in a clean, plain white envelope.

session expectations
Your Domme may answer the door in street clothes. You might have to wait in a room for Her to complete Her last session. You might have to fill out a questionnaire about your likes/dislikes. You will be required to pay up front. You might be left to take off your clothes after a brief meeting with the Mistress. (She cannot force you to undress without risking arrest). She should discuss  a safeword (a word that will let her know you can't take more of the same) before she begins your session. Follow directions. Expect punishment if you fail to follow directions. Be realistic. The session will not meet your fantasy on every detail. Given the opportunity your Goddess will blow your mind. Do not expect a script to be followed. She is going to take you places your own script could not imagine going. Be open-minded and let Her work Her magic. Realize that most Dommes say "no sex" and mean it in the broadest interpretation. Do not expect them to take off their clothes, dance, massage or allow kissing of intimate body parts. Goddess Danielle is a naturist. Clothing is a non-essential nuisance in Her world.